The Joy of Missing Out AKA JOMO…AKA Just Say No…


Embrace the JOMO.

The Joy of Missing Out (JOMO) is the flip side to The Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)

JOMO and FOMO…sound like a pair of Troll or Ogre Twins.

Being enslaved to FOMO means taking on more things than your plate…and you… can realistically handle at any one time, as much as we all aspire to be on par with the Gurus (especially those who try to emulate Martha Stewart…) you need to face reality; most of these gurus have a team of people doing most of the stuff.

In being enslaved to FOMO you find yourself run ragged, exhausted and frustrated. The expectation to be more, be better, do it all and look good doing it, tick all the boxes, achieve everything you’ve ever dreamed of by 55 and retire with millions in the bank. But even with FOMO; you are still missing out. Yes you are…but you are missing out on the wrong things. Don’t want to miss that gala with the movers and shakers? You end up missing baby’s first word. Absolutely have to go to that convention that is basically a repeat of the one last month but there will be new faces; you miss your daughter’s dance recital.

There is always a sacrifice to be made; yet when you embrace JOMO you’ll pick the right sacrifices.

Yes; there is the worry that the event you turn down could lead to great things; yet in the long run and grand scheme of things this is negligible. Sometimes opportunities that are presented to us may actually not be for us, but for someone else yet when we accept it; it could be in a way screwing things up for someone else. Have you ever been to an event and later told someone it was too bad they didn’t get to go because they would have benefited from it. Did it ever occur to you that the reason they didn’t get to go is because you did?

JOMO is about saying No to things; for whatever reason moves you; your spouse; your kids; the fact that it’s the 10th networking event in the last month and you just can’t be arsed because you know it will be the same people as the last three and the first two you attended (this one is for Dominic), the fact that what is being offered doesn’t razz your berries one iota. Because saying No to one thing means you get to say YES to other things.

JOMO can be applied to your professional life and your personal one as well. I understand it’s harder in the personal life due to pressure by our loved ones who seem to think that you should never ever say no to them (trust me I know all about this; I have a large extended family on my dad’s side and they all live in town…trust me…I KNOW!)

Can JOMO be applied to people? Yes…yes it can…and it should. For we are the company we keep; sorry but it’s true; who we associate with says a lot about us. That’s not to say that we get to treat our fellow human beings like shit, but it does means that we don’t have to be bosom buddies with them either, polite courtesy will do.  Some personalities don’t work well together and that’s just life, thus it’s alright to miss out on their company and be happier for it.

** Sometimes you do have to suck it up when it comes to doing time with people; because there will always be someone at an event that we don’t like and have to just put on the big girl panties and deal with it; this also goes for family members as we all have that one person in the family we could do without seeing anytime soon. **

Embracing JOMO can be challenging…daunting…downright scary even. But you can do it…even if it’s a baby step…take that step. As I said in my post about the CZ; once you do it…you’ll never go back. Embracing JOMO is also a state of mind; to be content with missing out on things.

Embrace the JOMO…and just say No…


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