And it’s the hardest thing to admit…When We’re not Okay.
We tell people everything is find…even when it isn’t because you don’t want to be a burden to them. We say everything is alright because we don’t want to be marginalized by people who seem to think what we are feeling or why we are feeling it is trivial and we just need to suck it up.
Lots of things can get under our armour; A loss; A unexpected changed; even just a word from a friend that cuts deeper than one would think. And when this happens; we may not physically bleed, but we are bleeding just the same. Our hearts bleed; our souls bleed. The pain is just as sharp as if someone had cut you.
It’s okay to not be okay…
But don’t hide it…tell someone if they ask if your okay…tell them how you really feel and if you’re not okay…then tell them you’re not okay.
But admitting it…as I said above for the reasons I included above…is hard. Admitting this means you make yourself vulnerable, and being vulnerable is also hard. It means letting the world in – so your friends can come in too – and showing them your pain. It’s also hard when people walk away after they see your pain…they walk away because they can’t or won’t help you cope with your pain. This adds to the not being okay portion; when your crew walks away from you it can make you feel like the whole world is crashing down.
I have been there…hell I am still there.
Admitting you’re not okay doesn’t only happen once; it happens every time you’re not okay. It’s never just a blanket statement because tomorrow you may be okay…but the day after…you’re may not.
Admit to someone when you’re not okay…
Even if it’s just to yourself…