When You Outgrow People…

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And they outgrow you…

It’s all part of that Reason…Season…Lifetime thing…

People we meet in our lives, some we grow with forever, some we grow with for only a short time…and some are the reasons we grow at all…

You see, as we go through life we’ll meet all kinds of people, and when we start out we think; ‘Yes! we’re going to be friends for life!!!’ Sometimes you’re right…and sometimes it works out differently.

I was friends with a girl starting in Jr. High; met her through the Drum Corps I was in. Nice girl, joined a group I was sitting with as we ate lunch, started talking, and pretty soon after that we were fast friends. After awhile I thought I had a life long friend in her. I was wrong…

Fast forward 15 years…we fell apart…so much so that I was dropped from her wedding party by her fiancé via an eCard from Hallmark, and when I called…she would only respond by email. I was incredibly hurt by this, so I didn’t attend the wedding…and aside from forwarding pictures shortly there after and one message before I moved to Australia I have had no contact with her. While I do hope she is well – she was a dear friend while she was in my life – in the ensuing years I have come to realize that our fallout was inevitable. Things that I made excuses for actually annoyed me, things that I accepted as ‘That’s Who She Is’ turned out to be…’That’s Who She Is With Me…’ because she wasn’t like that with anyone else. In the end it is obvious we had outgrown one another…

It happens in everyone’s life…we outgrow people…and they outgrow us. It’s not because we’ve stopped growing or they’ve stopped growing it’s merely that your respective ‘vines’ are now growing in different directions. This becomes quite evident when there is an atmosphere of feeling used. We’ve all experienced this, you’re merrily going along in life when little by little people who you assumed were your friends start to take advantage of you. They invite you along on outings not because they enjoy your company but because they need a body for numbers – and haven’t we all been here at some point in our lives?

It hurts when it happens…and it’s hard to let go…

But at the end of the day…

We do have to let go…